To have good self-esteem is very important for everyone. Self-esteem simply means appreciating yourself for who you are — with all you’re pros and cons. People with a good and healthy self-esteem are able to feel good about themselves for who they are, appreciate their own worth, and take pride in their abilities and accomplishments. They also acknowledge that they’re not perfect and have faults, but it dosen’t affect them much because they accept it. Perfection is simply unattainable for any of us. It doesn’t matter what age you’re in. If your self-esteem is low then you feel badly about yourself, usually followed with self-doubt and poor self-appreciation.
How to boost your self-esteem :
- Be aware of your thoughts and how you treat yourself. This includes your self-talk, what do you tell yourself about yourself? Is it positive and constructive or negative and destructive for your self-esteem.
- Take conscious control of your negative thoughts, and replace them with more realistic and positive ways of thinking. What do you tell yourself about yourself? You need to stop the cycle of negative thinking about yourself that reinforce negative self-esteem.
- Give yourself extra credit for a job well done and trust that you are competent. Focus on your accomplishments.
- Believe in your own worth. Accept that you are not perfect. Don’t let any one particular shortcoming undermine you. Remember that you are a complex, multifaceted desirable individual.
- Recognize and embrace your positive qualities. Make a list of all your positive qualities, skills, experiences, talents, and anything else that makes you feel good about yourself.
- Is there something that you want to change about yourself? Something that will make you better equipped as a person. Consider possible avenues for improvement. Pinpoint exactly what you’re not satisfied with and needs improvement. Then make a resonable plan about how to reach your goals and improve yourself.
- Compliment yourself. You can look in a mirror and pick few things that you like about yourself. It can be something you see on the outside such as hair, smile or nails. Then pick few things that you like about your personality, like your spirit or laughter. If you don’t want to look in the mirror then you can write it in a journal.
- Have realistic expectations in life and stop struggling towards some idealistic goal. Having unrealistic expectations in life will only lead to disappointment and dissatisfaction.
Did you know that researchers have found that positive thinking and optimism contribute to better health and happier individuals? Positive thinking involves optimism, hopefulness, thankfulness, enthusiasm, accepting the past, appreciating and accepting yourself. It’s a sad fact that so many folks suffer with this lack of positivity in their lives. When I was in university I had to read a book called Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi. This book is about the secret to happiness. It teaches you step by step how to practice positive thinking and optimism. It actually helps you to eliminate negativity and focus on all the good things in live, but you have to want to make a change and be happy first. Positive thinking involves always strive to become the best that you can. People who think positively are happier, healthier and more successful than others. The power of positive thinking will bring you positive things in your life. People who think positively spread positivism all around, they are likable and comfortable to be around.
The Power of a Positive Attitude will lead to:
- Lower stress level – you will become more relaxed by eliminating negative self-talk and negative thoughts.
- Greater resistance to illness – your mind can have a powerful effect on your body. Researches have found that people who think positively have stronger immune-system than those who tend to think negatively.
- A sense of well-being and improved health – By coping better with stress and avoiding unhealthy behaviors, they are able to improve their health and well-being.
- Better health – researches have found that just as negative emotions, also known as “toxic stress”, harm the body, positive emotions encourages healing. The connection between mind and body wellness is a powerful thing.
- Reduced risk of coronary artery disease – a study done in 2007 which more than 6,000 men and women, aged 25 to 74, participated in and were followed for 20 years. The findings show that positive thinking such as enthusiasm, optimism, hopefulness, engagement in life, and the ability to face life’s stresses with emotional balance— reduces the risk of coronary heart disease. The protective effect was distinct and measurable.
- Better coping skills –people who use positive coping strategies are better at tackling problems and challenges.
- Better confidence – one form of building confidence through positive thinking is self-talk. Praise yourself for a job well done. Positive affirmations can lead to a better self-image.
I’ve always been a sucker for New Year’s resolutions. There’s something about new year, a new beginning and new chances that is so enchanting. I usually get swept away with the promise of a fresh start and new beginnings. Making resolutions isn’t difficult but keeping them is easier said than done. But I’m not giving up before I even begin. I believe it’s better to start making few positive changes in your life in stead of not trying at all.
I’ve set up a plan on how I’m going to achieve my resolutions this year. I will share this with you as I hope it can also help you to keep your New Year’s Resolutions. My tips are following:
Make a resonable plan: Have a goal that’s realistic, something that you’ve been thinking about for a while, You need to give yourself direction how to achieve your new years resolution. You also need to have a reasonable time frame. The more details and parameters you have, the easier it will be to reach your goal.Write your goal down and keep it in view as a reminder so that you won’t forget about them. Some people say that it is important to share the resolutions with family, friends and even coworkers. I guess that’s personal whether or not you like to share it.
Be Prepared For Changes: Changes are always challenging. Make a list about the benefits that will come if you will follow through your resolution. That will encourage you to follow it through even though it’s tough.
Reward Yourself: Set up some kind of system to reward yourself when you’ve been efficiently following the new year’s resolution plan.
Be Aware of Your Weakness and Strength: You have to know your faults so that you can correct them. Use your strengths to help you overcome those weaknesses.
Avoid temptations: Avoid tempting situations if you’re trying to quit something.
No Guilt Trips: If you suffer a setback to your New Year’s resolutions, don’t let it get to you. Just get right back on track and don’t blame yourself or feel badly for lack of self control. Learn from your mistakes and try not to repeat it.
Positivity: It’s easy to feel overwhelmed but you must believe that you can do it and that you have it in you to achieve your goals. Keep in mind that small improvements counts too!