My kids always seems to be as surprised every evening when I tell them it’s bedtime. They look at me in disbelief as if I’m telling them something absurd. We always keep the same routine and they go to bed at the same time every night – but it’s always the same struggle. Still we always manage to stick to our routine. I guess them nagging about has become a regular part of our bedtime routine.
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Active listening is positive and effective communication skill that can improve communication between parent and child, by bringing clarity and understanding to relationships. It makes child feeling loved and worthy, appreciated, interesting, and respected. Parents expect that their child can trust their love, they want to be there for their child and hope that their child will turn to them for comfort. Good communication is an important parenting skill. With active listening you will let the child know that you are interested and involved and that you will help when needed. Active listening can truly transform how your children talk to you, it can deepen the bond, the trust, the mutual respect and mutual understanding in relationships.
1. Pay Attention: While the other person is speaking, look at the speaker directly, lean forward and maintain eye contact. Minimize all external distractions. Give this your full attention and ask the child to do the same. So turn off the TV or anything else that could disturb your conversation.
2. Respond appropriately: While you are listening, you can give both verbal and nonverbal responses such as nodding, smiling, and comment to the child. Encourage the speaker to continue with small verbal comments like yes, and uh huh.
3. Focus only on what the speaker is saying: Try not to think about what you are going to say next. The conversation will follow a logical flow after the speaker makes her point. If your own thoughts keep interrupting you, simply let them go and keep your attention on the speaker.
4. Keep an open mind. When active listening, the listener resists the temptation to make the assumption that they already know what the speaker is trying to say. Wait until the speaker is finished before deciding that you disagree.
5. Show Respect and understanding: Unless they specifically ask for advice, assume they just need to talk it out. Do not dominate the conversation.
6. Let the Speaker Finish the Point they Were Making: Don’t interrupt even if the speaker is launching a complaint against you, wait until they finish to defend yourself. The speaker will feel as though their point had been made. Allow the speaker to finish each point before asking questions. Do not interrogate the speaker.
7. Engage yourself. Children needs to know that you take their views and ideas seriously. Ask questions for clarification, but only when the speaker has finished. After you ask questions to make sure you didn’t misunderstand. Start with: “So you’re saying…”
A child is like a butterfly,
Some can fly higher than others.
But each one flies the best it can,
Why compare one against the other?
Each one is different. Each one is special.
Each one is beautiful.
I was reading an article stating that kids today are more narrow-minded and not as creative as their grandparents were. Young children can be very creative and love to use their imagination – there is no limit to their creation. Child can easily turn piece of paper into an airplane or a rocket just by using the imagination. As the kids grow older they tend to lose this talent, little by little, if it isn’t allowed to develop.
What is creativity? Creativity has been defined as the ability to use the imagination to see things differently, or to view the world in a distinct and personal way. Creativity is a skill that can be taught. Parents can help their kids to develop their skill by providing them with the resources they need for creative expression.
Why is creativity so important? Creativity is the talent to write stories and play music, or to make arts and crafts. But this talent is also used to solve everyday problems and even perform complex math operations. Creativity is not limited to artistic and musical expression—it is also essential for science, math, and even social and emotional intelligence. Creative people are more flexible and better problem solvers, which makes them more able to adapt to technological advances and deal with change—as well as take advantage of new opportunities.
What can parents do to encourage creativity?
Prepare kids bedroom or play area in a way that encourages creativity, keep coloring devices and paper handy and easily accessible, according to their age. Keep a variety of artistic materials such as clay, play dough, music, books, blocks, legos, and other creative toys within the reach of the child, appropriate for their age.
Encourage coloring and drawing, to read for pleasure and participate in the arts. Allow your kid to think for himself, do not interrupt or try to guide the child in “right direction”. Kids needs an opportunities for free self-expression, without negative judgment. The child might take that as critique and be discouraged to continue. Children can be very critical. If your child becomes frustrated because he can’t do something perfectly, be sympathetic and explain to him that everyone needs practice to master new things.