Mother is the woman who raises you, who is there for you to hold and comfort you when you are sick or hurt. The woman who laughs with you, who cries with you, who loves you, even when you aren’t exactly lovable, for whatever reason. That is what I call a real Mother and God bless them.
Being a mom can often be very challenging. This describes the many challenges of motherhood so well. A mother must be a multi-talented person, it is the hardest job in the world but also the most rewarding. In my opinion the most difficult part of motherhood is not the actual parenting part, but managing the household, making sure everyone’s schedules match, picking up the kids and dropping off kids, cooking, cleaning, washing clothes, shopping groceries and finding time to do something fun together as a family and once in a while trying to squeeze in a little mommy time-off. That is the challenge of motherhood.
Active listening is positive and effective communication skill that can improve communication between parent and child, by bringing clarity and understanding to relationships. It makes child feeling loved and worthy, appreciated, interesting, and respected. Parents expect that their child can trust their love, they want to be there for their child and hope that their child will turn to them for comfort. Good communication is an important parenting skill. With active listening you will let the child know that you are interested and involved and that you will help when needed. Active listening can truly transform how your children talk to you, it can deepen the bond, the trust, the mutual respect and mutual understanding in relationships.
1. Pay Attention: While the other person is speaking, look at the speaker directly, lean forward and maintain eye contact. Minimize all external distractions. Give this your full attention and ask the child to do the same. So turn off the TV or anything else that could disturb your conversation.
2. Respond appropriately: While you are listening, you can give both verbal and nonverbal responses such as nodding, smiling, and comment to the child. Encourage the speaker to continue with small verbal comments like yes, and uh huh.
3. Focus only on what the speaker is saying: Try not to think about what you are going to say next. The conversation will follow a logical flow after the speaker makes her point. If your own thoughts keep interrupting you, simply let them go and keep your attention on the speaker.
4. Keep an open mind. When active listening, the listener resists the temptation to make the assumption that they already know what the speaker is trying to say. Wait until the speaker is finished before deciding that you disagree.
5. Show Respect and understanding: Unless they specifically ask for advice, assume they just need to talk it out. Do not dominate the conversation.
6. Let the Speaker Finish the Point they Were Making: Don’t interrupt even if the speaker is launching a complaint against you, wait until they finish to defend yourself. The speaker will feel as though their point had been made. Allow the speaker to finish each point before asking questions. Do not interrogate the speaker.
7. Engage yourself. Children needs to know that you take their views and ideas seriously. Ask questions for clarification, but only when the speaker has finished. After you ask questions to make sure you didn’t misunderstand. Start with: “So you’re saying…”
I’ve been reading articles about how TV can have negative effect on children. According to the U.S. Health and Human Services news release, a study done by a doctoral candidate at Johns Hopkins Bloomberg School of Public Health has shown that too much television before the age of six could lead to possible behavioral problems later in life. According to them most kids like to watch TV and movies or play video games and use the computer. They often find it relaxing or entertaining. But too much time spent in those activities affects kids health and athletic ability. Kids who view violent acts are more likely to show aggressive behavior. If children who spend more than 4 hours per day watching TV, in the first years of life, the more likely to be overweight and less muscular according to a study by the University of Montreal. It will also affect how physically active he will be as an adult. TV watching can leed to obesity not only because it reduces children’s physical activity but also because it subjects them to ads wich are promoting foods with high fat and sugar content.
TV steals time from activities that actually develop the brain, like language, creativity, motor, and social skills. A child learns more efficiently from real interaction – with people and things, rather than things she sees on a video screen. School kids who watch too much TV also tend to work less on their homework. When doing homework with TV on in the background, kids tend to retain less skill and information.
Adults must ensure that their children are watching appropriate programs. Parents needs to monitor the content of TV programs and set viewing limits to ensure that your kids don’t spend too much time parked in front of the TV. The American Academy of Pediatrics (AAP) recommends that kids under 2 years old should not watch any TV and those older than 2 should not watch more than 1 to 2 hours a day of quality programs. TV isn’t all bad. Kids can get help learning on public television, f.ex. about wildlife on nature shows. No doubt about it — TV can be an excellent educator and entertainer – if you choose the quality programs.
Parents needs to realise that the mind of their kids is like clay. It forms early impressions on what it sees, and these early impressions determine how they see the world.
The conclusion is that as kids get older, too much screen time can interfere with activities such as being physically active, reading, doing homework, playing with friends, and spending time with family. Quality, educational programs can be informative for your kids but parents needs to monitor the programs and set time limits.
- TV and computer games blamed for UK teenagers’ sleep deprivation (storagebedsdirect.co.uk)
- Monkey See, Monkey Do – You Watch T.V. all Day, I Will Too! (gofitmoms.com)
- 5 tips to reduce screen time for children (expatsincebirth.com)
- Is ‘Secondhand’ TV Taking a Toll on Kids? (news.health.com)
Your children are not your children.
They are the sons and daughters of life’s longing for itself.
They come through you but not from you,
and though they are with you, yet they belong not to you.
You may give them your love, but not your thoughts.
For they have their own thoughts.
You may house their bodies but not their souls,
for their souls dwell in the house of tomorrow, which you cannot visit, not even in your dreams.
You may strive to be like them, but seek not to make them like you.
For life goes not backward, nor tarries with yesterday.
– by Kahlil Gibran
Parents are role models for their children. If they have bad habits it is likely that their children will pick them up as well. That’s why it is important for parents to be aware of their role and think carefully about what kind of role models they are. Are there some habits that needs to be changed so that you will better fill that role? I know that I do. One habit that I want to change are my diet. I want to teach my children how to eat healthy and take care of their health. Their role models needs to show them how to eat healthy and teach them how to make the right choice regarding their diet. It is important to teach children how they can have healthy Relationships With Food. They are not born with the talent to eat healthy, they need to learn it.
Parents should never use food as a reward on good behavior or to comfort the child. It teaches the child to eat if they are feeling bad or when they want’s to reward success. Many grown ups have this problem. They have developed eating and weight problems as they often see food as a reward for their hard work or when they are feeling down.
By making the children aware of the Healthy eating pyramid and talking to them about the variety of food. That some foods are good for your body but others aren’t. Children tend to take things very literally so it’s better to make sure they understand that it is okay to occasionally eat this “bad” food. We don’t want them to feel bad if they are in a party and “need” to eat cake.
By adding vegetables and fruits into your regular diet, you teach your child this habit. By exercising regularly your child is more likely to your child is more likely to choose physical activity.